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Feeling Single and Depressed?
Spring is here and couples in love seem to be everywhere – sharing an embrace and a kiss, or holding hands as they walk in the park. If you are single it’s easy to feel left out.
Why not do something about it? Instead of feeling demoralized and depressed, focus on the love you have in your future. Being single is a great opportunity. Look forward to what you want instead of focusing on what you don’t have.
Here are my top 3 tips for singles who need some spring cheer:
1. Celebrate Love -- Spring is a great excuse to celebrate life and love.
Don’t be cynical just because you are not in a romantic relationship. Shower yourself with love, or spend time with someone who loves you unconditionally.
- Book a day at the spa and pamper yourself by getting the most luxurious package that you can afford, and enjoy spoiling yourself, or indulge in some serious retail therapy – you deserve it!
- Who loves you baby? Do something special for a family member or a close friend. Take grandma for lunch or a pedicure! Bring your mom a beautiful bunch of flowers. If you’re a single parent, take your child to a movie and end the evening with a surprise gift bag full of treats, balloons and maybe even a teddy bear.
2. Develop a ‘Relationship Plan’ -- Spring can be the start of your New Year of Love!
If you dream of being in a happy romantic relationship, realize it takes commitment, effort and planning.
- Identify any ‘readiness issues’ or ‘baggage’ that could hold you back from having the relationship you truly want. What are the key areas of your life you need to change before you’ll be ready for a relationship? Perhaps it’s your financial situation, your health and fitness, or emotional or mental state.
- Apply the same principles to your search for a love partner that you would if you were seeking your ideal job. Assess your relationship and ‘readiness’ skills. Do you know your relationship deal-breakers? Are you clear about your values and life vision? Do you understand the pitfalls and dating traps that could lead you into the wrong relationship? If you need help, get it from a Relationship Coach who specializes in working with singles.
- Have a positive attitude and be happy in your life and with yourself. Live your life as a successful single – don’t put your life on hold while you wait for your partner to show up. Get involved in new activities; pursue your interests. And have FUN! Who knows who you’ll meet on the way?
3. Take Some Risks -- Extend your comfort zone to experience things you might not usually do.
- Become more approachable – smile and engage in conversation with strangers wherever you are. You’ll be surprised at the positive response you get and at how good you will feel. Be open to recognizing the opportunities – say yes when you might want to say no. Of course use common sense and be safe!
- Take the initiative, but keep it light and casual. If you are interested in someone, invite them out.
- Organize a dinner with other single friends to celebrate being single -- this is a wonderful time in your life, so enjoy it and appreciate the great opportunity ahead of you to find your love match.
It’s your choice about how you live your life as a single. Have fun and make the most of it.
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